15 Qualities to Look For in New Friends (2022)

If you recently had a major life event, moved somewhere new, graduated high school or college, or got out of a toxic relationship, you may be in the market for some new friends. Unfortunately, we can’t just go to the store and order a friend with the specific qualities we want. Still, we should know what qualities we want in new friends so we get positive and meaningful relationships.

While everyone has different needs and different types of people they vibe with, there are certain traits that are essential. Here are 15 key qualities you should consider when looking for new friends


1. Dependable

A good friend is someone who is there when they say they are going to be there. They follow through on their promises and commitments.

You can always rely on them to show up for you when you need them most. If they are always making excuses for not being with you, that might not be a good friendship to pursue.

2. Honest

You should seek friends who are always honest with you. They don’t hide things from you or lie to you.

Lies can be detrimental to a friendship because it ruins trust. It’ll make you question what else they haven’t been honest about.

3. Loyal

Good friends are loyal; they stand by you when times get hard. They don’t talk about you behind your back. They’re always ready to defend you when others try to defame your character.

4. Good Listener

A person’s ability to listen to others definitely shows what type of person they are. Some people only like to hear themselves talk. That leads to a one-sided relationship because only one person gets to share about themself. A good friend wants to know what you have to say and values your thoughts and opinions. 

5. Non-judgmental

You need a friend who doesn’t judge you for the things that you do. If a person is constantly putting you down and making you think negatively about yourself, they are not someone you should keep in your life. Friends support friends no matter whether or not they agree with their actions (unless those actions are harming them).

6. Trustworthy

A good friend will be able to keep your secrets. You can talk to them and know that they won’t repeat what you say to someone else. They respect your privacy and do their best to protect that privacy.

7. Trusting

In addition to being able to trust your friends, you should know that your friends have trust in you. If they are constantly suspicious or paranoid that you’ll disrespect their privacy, you won’t get anywhere in that relationship. Trust is required for a friendship to grow and prosper.

8. Caring

Good friends constantly show you how much they care about you and your wellbeing. They comfort you and are a shoulder to cry on.

9. Accepting

It is important that your friends accept you for who you are and don’t try to change you. A true friend will love you and accept all of you, good and bad qualities included.

They should of course still be being honest with you about how you can be better. You can typically tell early on how accepting a person is by how they talk about other people. If they constantly judge others, you may want to rethink your friendship.

10. Patient

A good friend is also patient; they allow you to make decisions and share about yourself on your time. They don’t pressure you to share information with them, and they don’t push you to do something you don’t want to do.

11. Present

You can’t have a friendship if someone isn’t actually present in your life. A person that is never around, never talks to you, and never puts in any effort will not be a good friend to you. To have any kind of friendship, both people need to be present and active in the relationship.

12. Supportive

Good friends are supportive of your pursuits, dreams, and ideas. This doesn’t mean they can’t have their own feelings or skepticism, but they don’t tell you that your dreams are invalid. They trust you to make your own decisions and offer advice while not telling you what to do.

13. Funny

The best friendships are between people who understand each other’s humor. You want to be able to laugh and have fun with your friends. Humor brings people closer together and makes spending time together even more enjoyable.

14. Generous

Friends are willing to give you their time, energy, and talents. They share those things with you and want to use what they have to benefit you.

Being generous doesn’t mean that they always give you money, but they do offer to help you in any way that they can. You also need to be willing and prepared to return their generosity.

15. Shared Interests

In order to establish a relationship with someone, you need to have something in common (Psychology Today). This provides the groundwork for conversation.

You’ll likely meet the people who become your friends while engaging in a shared interest. If you have nothing in common with someone, it will be very difficult to create a positive friendship.

Final thoughts on Friendship Qualities

The older we get, the harder it seems to make and keep friends. But they are extremely important to have in our lives.

We are social creatures, and no matter what, we need other people to share life with. When you start seeking out new friendships, keep these qualities in mind to ensure that the people you choose to share life with bring out the best in you.

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