People Make Time for Who They Want
It’s not uncommon for people to want time and attention from people who claim to be always busy. I’ve been on both sides of that.
The truth of whether people make time for what they want is perhaps debatable. Its true people tend to put their time and energy to things they care about.
It’s also true that people do have many things they need to think about and do in life. It can get to a point where someone may find they don’t get much time for themselves.
As a result, what remaining time they do have, they choose to spend it alone. Sometimes people are just in a period of life where they really want (or need) to focus on themselves.
It may seem selfish in one sense, because the person we care about isn’t directing time to us. But maybe it’s better some don’t give their time to us unless they really want to.
We still have to respect that everyone has a right to do what they feel like. If spending time in other areas helps someone improve their happiness and well-being, then that’s good.
On the flip side of things, we’ve all been guilty of not appreciating those who do give us their time. There are people who go out of their way for our attention that we can neglect sometimes.
From that perspective, we recognize that it’s not always as black and white as simply just not caring. Perhaps that can help us to feel less disappointed.
Three things to remember
1. Focus on what’s important to you
Everyone should make room in life to focus on what’s important to them. It’s the important things that matter to you which help enhance your joy in life.
When your joy is enhanced, you can better spread that joy to other people. Spend time on things that are meaningful to you. If you don’t know what that is, ponder and reflect on it for a moment.
You can find out what matters to you eventually. Then, you can start making that interest a regular part of your life.
2. Give attention to those who value and make time for you
We don’t always get the attention of those we wish we did. But we do get attention from people who really do value us and consistently make time for us in a positive way.
Remember that someone had a choice to make with their time. They had multiple options of how they could have used that time. And the one out of a hundred or maybe even thousand choices they could have made, in that moment, they chose you.
When you think of it from that perspective, perhaps that can encourage you to make time for that person more. Maybe you can reach out to them sometime.
3. Reduce time to those who aren’t giving time to you
Time and attention should be a two-way street. When you go out of your way to give someone your time and attention, it’s understandable to expect them to do the same at some point.
There have been people I’ve not reached out to as much over time because they never reached out to me. It wasn’t necessarily done out of spite, but more so just out of respecting the value I place on myself.
The dignity we should all have in not feeling we need to desperately grab someone’s attention in life. You are worthy of receiving attention without having to put so much effort for it.
Final thoughts
I believe we can all experience relationships where there’s mutual time and attention given. It just may take some of us longer than others to find our people.
Be open to allowing people a space in your life if they bring good energy to you. Go out of your way to spread good energy to others.
Remember that everyone’s trying to create some kind of happiness and fulfillment for themselves. Even if that means less time given to us, let’s hope that everyone can find that in their lives.