Struggling in life is something everyone deals with from time to time. Whether it's relationship conflicts, financial issues, or work-related problems, we can feel like everything is just piling on top of us.
It can seem like the whole world is against you, and no matter how hard you try, things just keep getting harder. I understand those feelings very well.
It may not be easy, but there are different things you can do to help yourself overcome your struggles. Try these 11 ways to stop struggling in life.
How to stop struggling
1. Know what you want
Having a clear idea of what you want and where you want to be can inspire you to push through adversity. If you have no clear goal of what you want, you won't be as motivated.
You won't keep yourself as diligent and energized as you need to be to succeed in life. Define what you want to achieve, and it'll help you be more persisten nt finding a way to overcome your burdens.
2. Acknowledge your struggles
Sometimes we haven’t yet been honest in acknowledging in our minds, “I’m struggling.” Maybe reading this article is the first time you acknowledged this to yourself. This is a great first step you’re taking.
Release those feelings of doubt and uncertainty you’ve been experiencing. You can write it down in a self-care journal, or you can just speak them out loud to yourself.
Let out all of the things that you’ve been dealing with on the inside. Once you’ve acknowledged it, maybe you might feel a release of stress.
After letting these things out, you can start thinking in your mind, “I am tired of struggling”. Then, you can move another step forward to stopping your difficulties.
3. Change your perspective
Life isn’t just what you’re experiencing in the moment. It’s also how you’re framing what you’re experiencing. I know a lot about this from my previous struggles with anxiety.
I dropped out of college twice because I couldn’t deal with the intense feelings I felt when I sat in a classroom. My neck and head would get tight, I would feel like it was difficult to breathe, and I'd think the worst was about to happen.
Through therapy and other instructional videos, I learned if I changed my perspective about what I was experiencing, I could feel a little bit better.
It didn’t always take the pain I was feeling in the moment away, but it did help me get through it. One mantra I like to keep in my mind, is that no matter what I'm going through in life, I’m always going to be okay.
You can also take the perspective that the struggles you’re going through are making you stronger. The older you get as you push through more unpleasant moments, the more you realize you can overcome almost anything.
Don’t look at the challenging times you're experiencing as just this dark cloud of hopelessness over you. Instead, maybe try looking at it as a bright light of opportunity to become more whole as a person than you’ve ever been.
4. Change how you feel
Changing your perspective is one way you can change how you feel in your struggles. Other ways you can do that is through doing things that energize you.
You can make it a little bit easier to tackle those struggles you’re dealing with by having as much energy as you can to keep pushing through.
Some basic ways you can alter your feelings and blossom your energy can be listening to music you enjoy, eating foods that are good for you, or doing an exercise you like.
Your feelings aren’t just something you’re stuck with. Feelings can be adjusted. It may not always be easy to adjust them, but if you do, it’ll help empower you to move forward in life.
5. Make different choices
As the inspirational quote by Jane Fulton states, “Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again but expecting different results.” Now if you thought that was an Einstein quote, you aren’t the only one (hint: I did too).
Nonetheless, the point is more important here. We get into a daily routine of doing the exact same things every day. And yet, we don’t stop to wonder why we still feel like we’re having trouble with things in life.
Maybe if we tried to switch up our choices in life, there might be different results that reduce our struggles.
As an example, let’s say you drive the same route to work every day, and end up in the same morning traffic jam that you hate.
You could keep being frustrated with this circumstance every day of your work week, or you could make a different choice of how you get to work.
You could go to work earlier, or you could take a different route. That one small different choice could make a huge impact on your sense of struggle in life.
There could be a number of other small different choices you could make. As you build up the amount of small changes you're making, you may eventually get to a point where you realize you’re no longer having trouble.
6. Get support from others
No one can face all of their problems alone. We all need people to listen to us and offer us words of encouragement to get through our struggles.
Make time to talk to those you’re closest with to help take the burden off your shoulders. If you don’t have many people you’re close to in life, there are always professionals or volunteers who would be willing to listen to you.
Perhaps once you get to talking to someone and being encouraged, you’ll feel a lot better about how you’re managing.
7. Quit expecting instant gratification
If you expect all your problems to go away tomorrow, you'll likely be in for a rude awakening. With so much we're able to get in an instant, it's more challenging to be patient in the process.
Just like slow and steady won the race for the rabbit, you're continued to slow progress will get you to be successful eventually. Day by day, just keep trying to make things better, and watch out how things change over time.
8. Quit blaming others
If you're always blaming others for your problems, you're making it more difficult to take responsibility for the choices you make. It's your decisions that have the most impact on how good things are for you.
You can choose to be proactive and get things done, or you can do nothing. You can choose to have a positive attitude and stay upbeat, or you can be negative.
Accept your role in creating the reality you want and do everything you can to make it happen.
9. Make a plan
Putting together a plan to tackle your struggles head on can be a great way to stop them. Start thinking about what different choices you can make to improve your mental well-being, your physical well-being, and your circumstances.
It’ll be easier for you to remember the things you can do if you write them down. Set up a schedule of when you’ll do these things and get started on it.
10. Be consistent
Change doesn’t often happen overnight. You have to be consistent in your new lifestyle choices to stop your struggles in the long term.
Perhaps you can have a friend or family member help hold you accountable to your goals. Even if you just do one small thing everyday to improve your life, it can make a huge difference in stopping your struggles.
Struggle is a natural part of life. Sometimes things just get hard, but they can also get better. I hope all of these tips will help you overcome your circumstances and begin to feel hope and joy in your life again.
11. Don't give up so easily
When you're facing adversity, it's easy to get frustrated and give up on the path you're moving towards. But few people have ever gotten what they wanted by giving up.
It's the few who've chosen to not be deterred, and kept running towards their dreams, that usually make things happen. Don't let challenges keep you down.
Get right back up, and start moving forward again.